These are the words I dread having to say. The moments that have led up to these words leaving my mouth are some of the the most anxiety and shame-provoking times that I face.
Have you ever wondered how your life would have panned out if you had made a different decision? If you had taken that job opportunity? Enrolled in that class? Gone on that overseas trip? or Married that person? Where would you be now?
We have all made mistakes. Sometimes we know immediately. As soon as the moment is past, it hits you “What was I thinking?!?”. At other times, it’s slow, subtle, and leaves you wondering “How did I get here?” More often than not, in therapy, I hear about the guilt and self-hate that follows.
It was 4.30pm on a Friday afternoon when the phone rang. I had already started packing up for the day and my mind had wandered onto my weekend plans. Automatically I reached for the phone “Hi, you have reached…” my words faded as I listened to the sobs on the other end.
One of the questions I'm frequently asked as a psychologist, is whether I get sick of listening to people's problems. But what some may see as problems, I see as...